Mindful meditation has gained popularity in recent years and it’s no wonder, as even a 10 minute a day mindful meditation practice can transform your body, your mind and your life. Mindful meditation has been practiced for thousands of years, and is simply the process of bringing one's awareness to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment. Mindfulness is a skill that is developed through the practice of focusing your mind on the experience of the present moment that will leave you calm, grounded and feeling more connected to the people and the world around you.

For thousands of years’ people who meditate have shared their amazing stories of how their lives have changed because of their practice and now science is telling us why it works. Research shows that the practice of mindfulness is strongly associated with greater well-being and improved health, specifically decreased stress, decreased depression, pain, anxiety, and insomnia, all while increasing quality of life. Meditation makes you calmer and better able to handle difficult situations, as meditation is the work of training your mind to respond from a place of clarity instead of reacting to everything that is going on around you.

What Does Mindful Meditation Do to My Mind and Body?

A 2016 Harvard University study found that people who meditate have an increased amount of gray matter in the auditory and sensory cortex. Mindfulness trains your brain to pay attention to your breathing and to the present experience, which enhances your senses while shutting cognition down. More gray matter in the frontal cortex, is associated with increases in working memory and executive decision making. The best thing about this study was that increased grey matter, enhanced senses, mental clarity, less stress, less anxiety and less depression were found in people who had meditated for years and in people who had meditated for as little as 8 weeks.

The Harvard Study found that mediating literally changes the brain and the brain stem, most notably by strengthening the PONS, the area of the brain responsible for producing regulatory neurotransmitters as well as the left hippocampus which is responsible for learning, cognition, memory and emotional regulation, the TPJ which is associated with perspective taking, empathy and compassion and by shrinking the amygdala, the fight or flight part of the brain, which is the central hub for anxiety, fear and stress in general.

So the research shows us clearly that a mindful meditation practice has an impact on our minds, but how does this transfer to our body? The answer is simple; by developing body and self- awareness and learning to regulate emotion and attention, we make better decisions for ourselves and reduce harmful stress hormones. Through meditation you will learn how many mindless things you do and you’ll start to change your habits when you bring more attention to how you live your life. As mindful meditation increases our capacity to deal with emotions and make better decisions we begin to reduce stress. When you reduce stress and stress hormones you reduce your risk of inflammation based diseases like cardiovascular disease, you lower your blood pressure and boost your immune system as your body is not constantly overloaded dealing with stress and stress hormones. With less stress you are calmer at the end of the day and can fall asleep easier allowing your body to rest properly which gives you more energy, and so it goes.

How You Do It

In mediation circles a funny joke about meditation is; ‘Don't just do something, sit there,’ and that is exactly how you begin to meditate. You begin mindful meditation by sitting on the floor or in a chair. If you are new to meditation I recommend that you sit inside in a peaceful spot until you are comfortable keeping your awareness on your breath for 10 minutes, as it can be easy to lose focus in a busy setting or outside with a view, a breeze, a fly or the sun. Set a timer for 10 minutes and begin. You’ll want to maintain an upright posture, close your eyes and focus your attention on the experience of your breath moving in, through and out of your body, overtime you can expand your attention to your whole body and to the sounds and smells in the room. Don’t try to change the rhythm of your breath and don't judge your breath, simply notice what your breath feels like. You can place your hands on the tops of your thighs with the palms facing up with the middle finger and thumb touching or you can place them on your legs or on your abdomen to physically connect with the movement of your breath.

Every time you notice that you are thinking that the timer is broken, or about your to do list, or about how you need to scratch an itch or stretch your legs, simply bring your awareness back to your breath. When you notice yourself following thoughts about your life, just let the thought go, with the acknowledgement that you are not your thoughts and bring your attention back to your breath. It’s common to feel frustrated when you begin a mindful meditation practice as we often judge how well we think we are doing by how comfortable we feel in the practice, but that isn’t how mindful meditation works. Initially mindful meditation will not be comfortable and you may find yourself resistant to maintain a regular and consistent practice which is a clear indication that you need to meditate. When you begin meditating the 10 minutes will feel like an hour and you may find yourself redirecting your attention to your breath every other breath, but that is how you develop mindfulness, by realizing the experience of time and by training your mind to stay calm and focus. Meditating is hard work, but over time it will become easier. You will begin to feel the benefits of mindful mediation very quickly, within just a few sessions and it will make you feel better and improve your health in as little as 8 weeks.

As you begin your experience with meditation, please be sure to share your stories and your tips to make mindful meditation practice better in the comments below.


   

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If you’re like me, creating a detailed new plan for how you’ll overhaul your diet, organization, workflow, relationships or your workouts is addicting. You journal all of the changes you can’t wait to make and pour over articles, books and blog posts fleshing things out. Then, you’re gung-ho for a few days … and then, inevitably, you get totally sidetracked by a shiny new something to overhaul. 

But you don’t have to find yourself constantly starting and quitting, or changing and petering out - there’s a better way. Recently I realized my overhauls all failed for the same reason: my motivation was all wrong. Let me give a few examples:

What do all these statements have in common?
  • I really should be running. Runners have great bodies. I hate running, but skinny people run. I should do it.
  • I probably eat way too much meat … and carbs. I should be eating more vegetables. Right now I eat nowhere near enough.
  • My home should be clean and organized - nothing out of place. That’s the goal now.
And now, these statements?
  • A 20 minute, all-out solo dance party sounds SO fun. After I dance, I always feel brighter and more relaxed.  
  • Every time I eat a meal with a generous portion of veggies, I feel light and energized! And proud of myself! My skin even looks clearer and more hydrated after I’ve been eating well. 
  • Having a home that’s peaceful and constantly ready to be used is one more way I can show my family my love.
In the first batch of statements, the motivation was guilt-based, should-laden and chokingly full of pressures from the outside. In the second batch of statements, each potential positive change sprang from a positive emotion. The very same behaviors (moving, eating well, cleaning) transformed from drudgery to joys.

Here’s three simple keys to using the "internal motivation" technique to transform your own life:

1.  De-sexify bad behavior

We’re not dummies. We keep our bad habits because they give us something. Often we get comfort, pleasure, escape or connection from our bad habits. But the key to ditching them (and I’m stealing from Tony Robbins here) is to associate those bad habits with their actual, bad outcomes. Instead of thinking sunshine and rainbows when you think of sugar-coated-non-food-junk-food, start to associating fake-food with the low energy, bad skin, unwanted pounds and the icky feeling that come after. 

2.  Be honest with yourself

If you’re not a runner and don’t even want to be, that’s okay! Be honest with yourself that no matter how long you beat your head against the wall, you won’t find running exciting. Instead, recognize that there’s more than one way to move your body, and then experiment until you find the one (like dancing) that sounds like a blast to you.

3.  Think instant gratification

The key to sticking to your life change is to get instant pleasure from your new behaviors. This is how you can trick your brain into wanting to do the good thing again and again. One trick that I love is to pull up articles on the nutritional benefits of the healthy food I'm folding into my diet, and read them while I’m eating the yummy, healthy stuff. I’m always so blown away by the healing properties of food. I get a built-in happy feeling from knowing that I’m caring for my body so well. 

Or how about this one: I only watch YouTube videos while working out. When I come across a video I’d love to watch, I save it for later and watch it while doing squats, burpees or circuit training. Working out while YouTube-ing is the perfect excuse to let yourself indulge in a YouTube spiral. Once you’re too tired to work out anymore, press pause on the videos until next time!


Hope these tips help. Here’s to finding the happy in the stuff that’s good for us!
The Holiday Season is a busy time of year and it can be easy to feel overwhelmed, with the gift giving and the extra commitments of parties, get togethers and travel, but it doesn’t have to be this way. The easiest way to avoid feeling overwhelmed and to enjoy the true spirit of the holidays it to pay it forward. The holidays are the perfect time to think of others in your life and community and to show your gratitude for all that you have and to share your bounty with others. You can pay it forward with simple thoughtful gestures that will not only improve your own enjoyment of the holidays, but also be of great benefit to others. Even the smallest gesture can have the most profound impact on friends, family, strangers. I’ve compiled this list of 7 ways to pay it forward this holiday season, so you can enjoy the spirit of giving and enjoy your best ever holiday season.


Smile and Greet Everyone


Everyday through the holidays make it a point to smile and greet people with a simple ‘hello’ or ‘good morning,’ on your commute or when you are shopping or waiting in line. See someone struggling with a heavy package or trying to open a door with their hands full? Open the door and ask if you can help. Small acts of kindness improve the day of the people around you and show you how much impact even the smallest gestures have.


Volunteering






Volunteering your time and skills to help out in your community can really make a big difference, many community organizations need extra volunteers at the holidays as regular workers and volunteers may need time off. Whether you are helping at the food pantry, the Senior Center or the Animal Shelter, you are contributing to the improvement of your community and everyone in it.


Share Treats

Sharing special holiday treats can make any event from a sports practice to a day at work a fun festive way to spend your time sharing your traditions and making new friends. While not everyone celebrates the same holidays, we all enjoy tasty treats, and letting others know that you thought about them lets them know that you appreciate them.

Donate


There are many ways to donate during the holidays. You can donate items to local community organizations, that may host food and clothing drives, you can also make a cash contribution to charities or causes you passionate about. If you want to go the extra mile, you can organize a collection for items or cash at your work or in your neighbourhood.



  Pick up the Tab for a Stranger


Whether you pay for coffee, buy groceries or a meal at a restaurant, picking up the tab is a sure way to happily surprise and brighten someone’s day. Often many cafes report that once one tab is picked up, that folks will continue to pay for the next person for the whole day.
Send Cards or a Care Package to The Troops


Sending cards or care packages to service man and women who are deployed during the holidays makes being away from home and family a little easier and less lonely for our troops when they know their communities are thinking of them and supporting them.


Go Caroling

The funnest way to share your holiday spirit is to sing it outloud and remind others that the holidays are truly a time to rejoice. Whether you go caroling in your neighborhood, at the hospital or homeless shelter you’ll be bound to bring a smile to the many folks you sing for.



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From summer’s heat to hectic holidays with barely a blink…then wake up to a New Year, feeling disconnected as we scramble to make resolutions to get us back on track, but it doesn’t have to be this way. What if I told that a little check-in and change in action now, would help keep you on track and energized through to the New Year and beyond? Autumn is the time of year to slow down and become grounded in our connection to ourselves. During this transition from summer’s heat and long days to the coolest and darkest time of the year and we can often experience a sense of loss as the leaves drop and the light fades, however, we can cultivate balance during this time of transition. Autumn is the perfect time to check-in with yourself, practice self-care and store up energy for the holidays when we often give the most of ourselves to others. Fall is all about making sure you are connected to yourself, here’s my top tips to keep you grounded.

Slow Down and Practice Self Care 



Shorter days are Mother Nature’s way of slowing us down. During the fall, you’ll want to enjoy the harvest of your efforts all year up to this point, so take a serious look at your commitments and to-do list and cut back. Once you’ve created some breathing room, it’s time to do just that…breath and begin to practice self-care. Self-care means just that, caring for yourself. The reason that illness can so easily overtake us in the fall is that we forget to take care of ourselves. Taking time for yourself to read, meditate, journal or simply breath is the first step in developing an in tuned self-care practice. It is only from a calm and peaceful place, that we can truly answer the question ‘What do I need.’



Sleep More 



During the fall, it’s time to adjust our internal clocks and get more sleep. When we don’t get enough sleep, our bodies don’t have the time to rest and we compromise our immune systems, which is why fall is prime time for colds and flu. Additionally, lack of sleep, is linked to weight gain, putting us at risk to gain unwanted weight before we even indulge in holiday treats. To wind down at the end of the day, create a routine by turning off electronics, and dimming the lights while you enjoy a cup of warm herbal tea.






Eat Nourishing Seasonal Foods 



Fall is the best time to eat healthy hearty foods from the garden as nourishing warm meals. Making healthy foods for ourselves and our families helps us to connect both to the natural world and each other. Eating stews, soups and casseroles through the fall, nourishes our bodies with nutrients from the bounty of the harvest at the market.


 Exercise 


Maintaining regular and consistent exercise throughout the fall, will not only keep your body healthy, it will help you deal with stress and feel calm, while also boosting your energy and helping you to control your weight. The cooler temps and vibrant colors of fall are great for outdoor exercise and being in the sun will help to boost your Vitamin D before winter.




Create Space 


Fall is the perfect time to organize your home and bring out your cool weather clothes. As you re-arrange, take this opportunity to create space in your home by decluttering and downsizing. When our schedules and minds are hectic, our homes can be too, and consciously creating order and space in your home will help you to feel organized in all aspects of your life.





Connect with Yourself 


Now is the time to connect with yourself and to create a feeling of being grounded in all aspects of your life. How do you feel about: yourself, your family, your career and your goals? Are you staying on track? Journaling about your thoughts, feelings, goals and actions will help you to see how you feel and record your accomplishments. By keeping yourself in tuned with the rhythms of nature, you’ll keep yourself in balance and enjoy preparing for winter.



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Amidst the flurry of shopping, packing and moving your child to college, there’s hardly time to acknowledge, let alone process, the fact that you are going through one of life’s bigger transitions. When your child goes to college, whether it’s your first, last or only child, this change includes an ending and a beginning. When your kids move away from home your role in life and your daily responsibilities as well as activities, change. It’s not uncommon to feel sad, lonely or even without purpose. Life with kids at home was probably action packed and kid-centric, but now that the kids, the mountains of laundry, the endless shuttle service and endless activities have stopped…it’s time to figure out who you are. How are you going to fill your time, now that you actually, have time? It’s best to spend some time to consider how this transition affects your life, before rushing out and filling your time with any old thing or just ignoring your feelings.

Acknowledge and Honor the Change

Big life changes are hard, spend some time and acknowledge all the aspects of your life that are changing; from day to day activities, to missing your child who’ve been used to spending time with every day. Then you’ll want to begin thinking of the new opportunities this change is bringing to both you and your child. You will now have time to learn about, develop and pursue your interests, and you’ll be able to see your child develop into an adult and begin their life on their own.

Recognize & Share Your Feelings

The focus of your life for the past 2 decades has come to a screeching halt, and its time to ask yourself, how do I feel? It’s common to feel a varied mix of emotions that run the gamut from sadness, fear, happiness and pride. These conflicting emotions can be hard to navigate, which is why it’s important to express them for what they are. How you share your feelings is just as important as recognizing them. Often, we may want to avoid painful feelings such as loss of purpose or sadness and it can be easy to vent your feelings onto others, especially those closest to us, as frustration or anger. However, expressing ourselves this way, only creates distance and isolation at a time when you need closeness and support.

Find Your Support

Having positive support in your life gives you the freedom to express your feelings and to share your experiences, while learning from others who are going through or who have gone through the same experiences. When we are faced with the dramatic change that occurs when a child goes off to college, our whole identity as a parent and a person is changing, and as you experience this change it can be scary. It’s time to open up to friends and family, or you can speak to church leaders, a therapist or even find a Mom’s group.

Self-Care

During transitions where we are dealing with our roles in life changing, it’s important to make sure we are practicing self-care. Change is stressful and stress can create havoc on our bodies. During this time make sure you are setting yourself up for success. You’ll want to get lots of good quality sleep, so that you feel calm and rested. And make sure that you get plenty of exercise and that you are eating and hydrating your body properly.

Take Action, Now

When transitions occur and we are experiencing a roller-coaster of emotions, we can become overwhelmed and making decisions can be hard. During this time, it’s important that you start processing your feelings, sharing your thoughts and participating in activities with other people. As a busy parent, you may have gotten into the routine of putting yourself last, so now it’s time to take action, change gears, and put yourself first. Make efforts every day to make sure you get what you need as you process and adjust to this new chapter in your life.




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Spring cleaning means a fresh new start! You get to purge what’s holding you back and cluttering things up. You repair what’s broken and take stock of the things that you love and want to keep. You clean up old messes and really take a good, close look at what fresh, new things you can add to make life better.

You’ve probably read tons of articles about clearing out your closet or deep cleaning your bathroom, but the idea of spring cleaning can do good far beyond the tidiness of your home. Have you ever thought about spring cleaning your friendships?

This is our guide to doing it.

Start with a vision board:


Get out a journal and answer complete these sentences ...
  • In a perfect world, my friends feel ____________ after hanging out with me. (what kind of friend are you?)
  • In a perfect world, I’d see my friends ____________. (how often?)
  • In a perfect world, I wouldn’t ________________ anymore. (bad friendship habit)
  • In a perfect world, my friends and I would ____________. (stuff you’d love to do together)

Take stock of what you have:


Write down the names of the first 5 friends who pop into your head. For each friend, answer these questions. If you answer more “no’s” than “yeses”, put that friendship in the “needs attention & mending pile.” Then set out to change those “no’s” to “yeses!"
  • Do I know what ____________ is most excited about right now?
  • Do I know what  ____________’s biggest challenges are right now?
  • Have I helped lift the burden at all?
  • Do I spend enough time with / talking to ____________?
  • Have I told _________ about the thing I’ve been thinking about constantly?
  • Do _______ and I have anything we’re looking forward to together? (this can be anything from “going to the gym together on Wednesday” to “our weekly Skype hangout” to “a weekend road trip.") 

Purge the toxic, messy stuff:


Sometimes you’ve had crazy fun times with a friend, but the net effect of your relationship is more draining than filling - or you find yourself being less of the person you hope to be when you hang out. Or maybe the friend’s just flaky, self absorbed or manipulative. Either way, I’m giving you permission to detox and step back from those bad friendships. 

You’re already probably thinking about a person or two. Here are a few ways to get rid of bad friendships:

  • First, try changing the tone. Sometimes our friends are just totally oblivious to the effect they’re having. Does this friend always encourage you to drink more than you’d like to? Invite them to do something outside of your normal “going out for a drink” wheelhouse - like seeing a play, thrift store shopping, taking trapeze lessons or trying out a cooking class. Maybe you’ll be the friend that helps make them a better, more awesome version of themselves. If they’re resistant to doing anything but their tried and true bad habits, you’re free to cut things off.
  • Be a straight shooter. The next time that negative thing comes up again, tell them, “We’ve been friends for a while and I want to be able to be honest with you. I’ve noticed __________ come up / happen on a regular basis and that’s not the kind of friendship I’d hoped for … so even though we’ve had a lot of fun, I have to step away if things aren’t going to change."
  • Know that you can’t force a person to change and after you’ve mourned the friendship, let it go and make new friends!

Decide what fresh new things to add:


Do you want to be the friend who reaches out first to help celebrate when something awesome’s happened? Look for a chance THIS week to really freak out with a friend over a new job or haircut or for finishing the half marathon. Do you want to be the friend who gives incredibly thoughtful gifts? Create a new, secret Pinterest board to save gift ideas for your friends right when you first hear your friends gushing about them. Do you want to be the friend who lends a listening ear? Call a buddy and just ask questions - make it about them and make sure your friend has a chance to really vent.

Or maybe you realize that you’re lacking in the friend department. Maybe you need an entrepreneur friend who can sympathize with what you’re going through launching your own business. Join an entrepreneur MeetUp! Maybe you’d love a friend to work out with. Strike up a conversation with the lady at the gym who you’ve seen a million times but haven’t spoken to. Make the first move!

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Spring cleaning your friendships might get nostalgic, and even a little messy, but you’ll thank yourself for taking the time to really take stock of one of the most important parts of your life: your beautiful relationships.